I’m still in the process of pondering the blog name change like I told you last week. Alicia, thank you sweetly for your precious opinion.
Life in January is filled with little drops of happiness. I look for them. I hunger for them. So I had one today. Look at my Instagram and you’ll see a pic of the smiley me with a coffee that a client brought as he came to class.
Now, let’s relax with that coffee (or whatever makes you feel precious and warm inside) and talk about things that matter. Let’s exchange and in the process be boosted.
I’m a person who loves pretty clothes – definitely pink – knowing about trends and creating glamorous outfits. These all add a nice extra taste to my days. That said, I am also someone who is quite sensitive emotionally. I need to be able to express how I feel at regular intervals. Sometimes I find this to be too much. I’d like to be less soft-hearted. I’d like to be tougher. When the going gets more intense, we all look for strong pillars around us. We appreciate people who don’t panic. I have that attitude in me – I am sure – I just need to consciously lure it out.
How can one gain more emotional stability? First, you have to relax. You have to find a feeling of trust in life. That hot-chocolate comforting, pancake smelling sentiment that “yep, I’ll be OK”. You have to determine where you can find it. My safety assurance is my faith in Jesus. God made this world, so he is able to protect me.
Once your safe base is found, you have to learn to remind yourself to go back there. These things don’t come automatically, especially after years of opposite, read anxious, behavior. It’s alright to catch yourself worrying. But act as soon as you can. I find going out for a walk, reading something captivating or talking with someone who really listens to me soothing.
I also remind myself that “this too will pass”. Sometimes things that are there here and now seem so dramatic. Yet when the sun rises again, the effect will already have lessened. You do something you regret. OK, that’s human. Don’t beat yourself up for it longer than five minutes. You go thru it, think how you’ll learn from it and then push yourself to forget all ruminating. Sometimes I feel tense around other people – social anxiety they call it – even if I don’t want to. I hate that and scold myself for it hours beyond the event. What if I just said “I wish I could be more true to my real inner being, which I believe to be a confident girl. Next time I’ll have a fresh new opportunity to let more of true me come out”.