I’m done bashing my body. I’ve decided to stop complaining once and for all. Yes, I’ll never be perfect, but does that really matter? I don’t expect perfection in others, so why in myself. I believe that many of us will be freed to truly live, not just to get by, when we uncover the key to unconditional body happiness.
I read an article talking about three points leading to body wellbeing. Let’s start. The first point is the most powerful. Focus on what you love about your body, not on what you don’t. Let’s stop wasting our precious time on complaining about this and that. The tummy that isn’t as flat as I’d like or the shoulder bones that don’t define themselves as clearly as once before. Is my body functional? Does it enable me to truly live, to go where I wish and pile up on activities that I long to engage in?
The second point is about stopping negative internal talk. Practice and learn how to talk to yourself like you would to a dear friend. I would never ever tell a friend that they don’t look their best today or that their cheeks look too chubby to be cute. I don’t even notice these things in others. According to my values, I’d find that small-minded. So, why would I pick on myself in such a way?
The third point banishes our damaging habit of comparing. We compare body weight and firmness of tummy but also jobs, finances and success. This leads to what. Deep dissatisfaction, ungratefulness and general lack of motivation. Let’s appreciate our lives, bodies and doings to their true value. I am unique. So are you. Let’s do “us”. I believe that practice makes perfect. Once you catch yourself in the comparison game, snip it off right there and then.
What do you think? Are you game?
The Canadian end of winter has been acting up. On our recent journey, we ended up booking a hotel in Montreal just to spend the night. The ordeal wasn’t planned, yet it turned out fun. We enjoyed what the bar and cuisine had to offer, along with my complementary Starbucks fix. Nothing better to paint a smile on my face upon wake up.
I’ve really been mindful of cultivating a positive attitude towards the weather, among other things. I can’t change nor shorten the Canadian winter. So I will simply accept it, work around it. I’ve been roasting veggies – mmm, the yummy smell spreading across my place as I’m writing this – and just enjoying the freezing air walks. Happiness radiates from within. It has very little to do with the temps. But finding your sparkle is the hardest.
Before I headed out to Starbucks to savor writing this post, I watched Donald Trump take his first steps down the inauguration parade route in Washington DC. Prior to that, I had watched Barack Obama say good bye to his staff and supporters at Joint Base Andrew. My emotions are shuffled. I don’t quite understand how my country got where it is today.
Nevertheless, I’ve always been a huge believer in positivity. In general, I try to accept the facts as soon as possible, and then see how I can find my happy place within the defining factors I cannot change. Future remains to be seen. Within that, I feel that my place is to keep shining the light of multiculturalism and inclusion. I think that a great deal of our societal problems of today stem from the fact that a part of our society, be it in the USA or elsewhere, doesn’t find their true place in it.
If I on daily basis spread the message of respect to everyone I come across, be it the barista, cleaning lady or bus driver, if I reach out to them with a friendly smile, a few words to acknowledge them being a part of my day, that will help everyone feel like their input is valued and needed. I know that this takes energy. The day isn’t always opportune to breathing out positivity. Yet, if I challenge myself to this task, I am the first one to reap the good fruit. A smile blesses the smiler first and foremost.
Today I inaugurate a mandate of daily positivity. I swear in with a desire to be the voice of encouragement. I am in control of my life. My individual actions matter. They are my precious daily doings – nothing counts more than that. I hope you’re down with me…
Fall is finally slowly starting to kick in here in Quebec City. It’s been such a great summer with lots of warm morning jogs in Central Park and coffees on the Grand Allee terrace. I’m suffering from a sinusitis. It’s forced me to slow down and take time to rest. I try to see lesson in everything so now I’m tending a listening ear to the message this quieter time can deliver me. It’s definitely about trust. Believing that my company will continue its happy life even though I’ve had to cancel a few days.
When feeling physically low I go to things that soothe me. I start wanting to take baths. I walk in the city and pay more attention on details. I write to friends that I haven’t connected with in a while. I study some Bible, pray and mediate on the verses I read. It seems that just as my body is weak, my heart is ever more open during these days. All distractions are gone. Just the essential – the lesson in learning to accept life as it comes.
Self confidence is something I need more. As a teacher to adults, I am constantly in front of paying clients. This causes me some internal pressure at times. It depends on my general level of relaxedness to begin with. Days do come by when I doubt my capacities. I want to put in place an easy going and cool atmosphere, and end up second guessing if I could, all of a sudden, fall into momentary anxiety. This stems from my encrusted disbelief in my true value and strength.
I did some searching on the Internet on self confidence. I found an interesting read here. The article talks about at the end of day writing down three things that you liked about yourself that day. You can do that in a journal or even on your phone. It’ll be beneficial to go back to your notes after some time has passed. When you see things black on white, they sink in more.
The article also advices you to aim for good enough, not perfect. If I set my expectations too high, I am inviting uncomfortableness into my life. I am bound to grow tired and frustrated. Everyone misses the mark sometimes. We all have the right to be perfectly imperfect. I need to remind myself of that. People who don’t let you be imperfect have no place in your life anyway. That’s a healthy thought to keep in mind.
Healthy self confidence is made of kind, flexible thinking towards yourself. Pushing to excellency is great, yet knowing when to loosen up a little is equally important. Finding the balance between the hard and soft approaches is a daily task. When I find the key to be truly me, when I accept my flaws as well, when I’m able to pass onto other things after imperfections that is when I can really live a lighter life. Working with people becomes more fun and less of a performance. Being with friends will be about honesty and trust, not about pleasing others out of fear of rejection. Waking up in the morning is about beginning a new page, excitedly – awaiting to see what life offers, and what I offer to life with my unique personality.
These are simple yet powerful ideas. As any habit, they need repetition in order to be picked up by my mind. What could be more important than working on training my self towards a freer, more relaxed life?
Off from Hollywood Boulevard, in front of the Chinese Theater, there’s a plaque saying “I Prefer Blondes” with Marilyn Monroe’s handprints forever caught into it. It’s been too long I last saw it, but I still remember. Marilyn Monroe was a woman of charm. She dared to wear red lips and to be herself. Her body was curvy and full of life. Men and women alike still find her beauty and lifestyle captivating.
When I wear this shirt – that I found at a small store on the French Riviera – I cannot but take in some of that Marilyn energy. It makes me proud to be a blonde. The kind that uses her head to go places, but who also is thankful for her feminine assets.
Every woman is beautiful, blonde or not. We just have to figure out our personal style, what boosts our unique personality. I love reading fashion blogs and rejoicing over bloggers that have “made it big”, that are collaborating and going to events. I celebrate their success and take in that sweetness. Their looks inspire me and give me ideas on how to enjoy life even more – in my unique blonde head.
French Riviera shirt
Le Chateau necklace
NYC Soho earrings