I’m Back – Refreshed by the Ocean

It’s been the longest blog break I’ve taken ever during the lifetime of this one since 2007. Things just went that way. We were enjoying ourselves by the ocean and wireless network was unsure. So I took time to live real life and to breathe in the ocean air.

I’m extremely happy to be back though. I am contented to be reconnecting with you. My blog is about sharing joy. It’s about bringing sunshine and positive vibes into this world. I’m thankful that you’re here right now. That you’re interested in reading what I have to say. As the new business/school/activity year is dawning, I’ll be here more enthusiastic than ever to inspire you to feel good be it fashion, self development, traveling or relaxation.

Our first vacation week was spent on Cape Cod in Massachussetts. We camped less than a mile from the Atlantic Ocean. We took long walks on the beach. I did yoga there. We swam and cuddled and slept there. We took in all the renewing breezes. As my tank top says, I needed “vitamin sea”, and I truly got my dose.

This weekend I wish that you also find “your beach”. Go take some time for yourself. Rejoice in what is beautiful, calming and energizing around you. Get lost in the moment. Be you.

Sending love…

Meditation on the Moment

Meditation on the Moment

I’ve enjoyed June so much. More than ever before, it feels. I just love every dulcet summer evening breeze of air, every unexpected opportunity to venture out for a long walk and every free moment now that work has once again, summer time thing, slowed down a bit.

I’ve used the time to connect with others, and myself, too. I’ve sought zen moments and longed for mindfulness meditation. I’ve practiced being here and now. Just enjoying the present time without rushing anywhere else forward in thoughts.

Meditation on the Moment

Truly appreciating what you have here, now and today takes practice. Of course things could be better, and of course we should strive for better results from ourselves, yet at the same time it is so liberating when you really learn how not to long for anything other than now. Accepting that life goes as it does, and that my job is to adapt to it.

Life becomes an exciting journey when you start living it with a thankful servant’s heart. When you wake up in the morning and think “my input is important so what can I do today to make a difference?” I have my list of things to pray and work on this summer. Do you have one, too?

Meditation on the Moment

Meditation on the Moment

Meditation on the Moment

Meditation on the Moment

Meditation on the Moment

Meditation on the Moment

Meditation on the Moment

Positive Vibes

Positive Vibes

Ever since my last post and the decision to stop bashing my body and start living in full appreciation of what I am today, I’ve felt a lot more energetic and happy, too. It feels like a weight has been taken off of my shoulders. My old ways of thinking do try to lurk back in but I’m sure that with mindfulness and practice they’ll fade away.

I feel like this is a topic that I should write more about, how to love your body as it is, all in taking a good care of it. Running, toning up, doing abs and in general moving your body and eating mindfully, and as clean as it feels good, are all good things. But even after that you may not be as skinny as you’d like. Then that’s when you have to do work on yourself in order to accept that your unique weight set point is there where it naturally, without constant battle, falls.

For years I tried to fool myself into thinking that I was super skinny by nature. I still think that I am naturally slim or even thin but not underweight and skeletal. Since my undereating years I’ve had to relearn what my body really looks like, how much food a normal person eats and so on. I am now able, and more and more every passing year, to enjoy food without guilt. I am able to find a BMI of 19 ok and not needing to loose weight. These things take time. I’m sure that I’m not alone with these issues so that’s why I feel like I should write out openly about my feelings even if it can put me in a vulnerable position.

Today my life is a lot happier and a lot fuller than during those years when I was focused on staying as skinny as humanly possible. I’m full of energy and positivity – and I’m sure that these feelings will even grow as I learn to reprogram my thoughts.

Positive Vibes

Positive Vibes

Positive Vibes

Positive Vibes

Positive Vibes

Positive Vibes

Positive Vibes

Positive Vibes

Positive Vibes

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Positive Vibes

Positive Vibes

How to Start Loving Your Body?

How to Start Loving Your Body?

I’m done bashing my body. I’ve decided to stop complaining once and for all. Yes, I’ll never be perfect, but does that really matter? I don’t expect perfection in others, so why in myself. I believe that many of us will be freed to truly live, not just to get by, when we uncover the key to unconditional body happiness.

I read an article talking about three points leading to body wellbeing. Let’s start. The first point is the most powerful. Focus on what you love about your body, not on what you don’t. Let’s stop wasting our precious time on complaining about this and that. The tummy that isn’t as flat as I’d like or the shoulder bones that don’t define themselves as clearly as once before. Is my body functional? Does it enable me to truly live, to go where I wish and pile up on activities that I long to engage in?

The second point is about stopping negative internal talk. Practice and learn how to talk to yourself like you would to a dear friend. I would never ever tell a friend that they don’t look their best today or that their cheeks look too chubby to be cute. I don’t even notice these things in others. According to my values, I’d find that small-minded. So, why would I pick on myself in such a way?

The third point banishes our damaging habit of comparing. We compare body weight and firmness of tummy but also jobs, finances and success. This leads to what. Deep dissatisfaction, ungratefulness and general lack of motivation. Let’s appreciate our lives, bodies and doings to their true value. I am unique. So are you. Let’s do “us”. I believe that practice makes perfect. Once you catch yourself in the comparison game, snip it off right there and then.

What do you think? Are you game?

How to Start Loving Your Body?

How to Start Loving Your Body?

How to Start Loving Your Body?

How to Start Loving Your Body?

How to Start Loving Your Body?

How to Start Loving Your Body?

How to Start Loving Your Body?

How to Start Loving Your Body?

How to Start Loving Your Body?

How to Start Loving Your Body?

How to Start Loving Your Body?

How to Start Loving Your Body?

Do you love your body?

Do you love your body?

What do you think about your body? To me the question is difficult. There’s the automatic perky answer, and then there are those darker thoughts that can even ruin a good day if I’m not vigilant in regards to my attitude. I keep telling myself not to compare to others, notably to those countless Instagram fashionista shots that I often gaze. I keep trying not to wish for a flat, tightly skinned tummy since mine hasn’t shown the capacity to get quite there.

I eat clean. My nutrition consists of whole grains, veggies, nuts, fruit and protein like ham, chicken and the occasional egg. I do at least one hour of sports daily mostly using my stepper, or if not then walking, skating, skiing, doing zumba or jogging. I started teaching my own latino aerobics class last August. I used to teach fitness so that has felt gratifying. I have got to deliver a fun and structured class, and the challenge pushes me forward.

That said, I regularly battle with feelings of “I’m not thin enough”. These thoughts have never really left my mind ever since I once discovered the world of body unhappiness at the age of fifteen. Where does that feeling come from? The question is very large and I’m not sure to be able to find the answer, ever. So, I have to work around the issue. You know, my constant quest for positive attitude that transforms life and in the end renders things enjoyable.

What is it then that I can do to love my body the way it is today? Focusing on what I can do, and not so much on what I look like doing it, is a key element. If you don’t allow your body the proper nutrition, you cannot be active to your full potential. A body that eats is a body that has energy to perform. Another thing I can be mindful about is “competing” with myself. We all have our specific genetics and age. Being slim at fourteen is most likely easier than at forty. So, if I am to compare, I should do it with people in my age group in order to give myself a fair chance. Comparing isn’t good though, so the ultimate goal would be to stop following those Insta feeds, or other pictorial impulses that I allow myself to see. If one could just be strong enough to take home the fashion inspiration and leave your own body putting down aside.

As I’ve written this text, I’ve come to the conclusion that I need to be more mature about how I see my body. I need to be realistic. I need to appreciate the weight that my body has chosen in the healthy conditions that I have given it. If I do my best in providing good nutrition and daily exercise, so then the weight that my body needs to be happy should make me happy too. The key to happiness then is in changing the way I think of the ideal weight for myself.

Do you love your body?

Do you love your body?

Do you love your body?

Controlling Your Emotions

Controlling Your Emotions

I have difficulty to control my emotions from time to time. I want to be the confident boss of my own life so I went on a quest for ideas on how to better govern my reactions. I believe that the more confidence you have in yourself, the happier you will be in any situation. This then becomes a ground-laying point.

Controlling Your Emotions

Controlling your emotions starts by understanding that they all begin with a thought. You can’t change the feelings that you automatically feel, but you do have lots of control over what it is that you allow yourself to think. Practice makes this point perfect. I can catch myself feeling sad. I go back and analyze what it was that I thought about prior to the sadness invading me. I can then evaluate those thoughts. Were they the reality or only my interpretation of it? These two aren’t the same thing. Maybe I’ll realize that I misunderstood a message, or it can be that I overreacted. Had I chosen to think more positively, the sadness vibes wouldn’t have gained power within me. Next time around, I can stop the negative thinking process at its stem.

Controlling Your Emotions

It’s never too late for gaining control over your feelings. If undesired sentiments have already had time to pop out, the cure is in actively choosing to think the opposite. If I’m feeling anxious about meeting a new client, I can softly speak to myself in an encouraging way. When a thought like “I’ll look too nervous ” comes up, I will consciously counter it with a thought “I will be a charming person, just as I have already been so in many situations in the past”. The more I get on the counteractive emotional patrol, the more automatic these thoughts become. I realize that this all takes psychological energy, but so does being drained by your emotions running all over the place, and when you least want that. It’s a question of investing in your wellbeing.

Controlling Your Emotions

Creating a positive mantra is an excellent idea. It’ll be your internal cheerleader. I like mantras like “I am strong “, “I am loved” and “I am enough “. Since I believe in God, I also enjoy using Bible quotes like “I can do all things thru Christ who strengthens me”. Your mantra will accompany you wherever you need to go. When you feel like “you could just die”, so heavy is the emotional charge, you calmly decide to turn to your mantra. You center yourself, and you’ll feel more solid already. After the feeling-at-raw episode, the good-doing effects continue because you will be boosted in regards to the future. If your mantra and controlling techniques worked once, they’ll surely work again. And there we are – in a positive emotional circle.

Controlling Your Emotions

Controlling Your Emotions