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Do you love your body?

Do you love your body?

What do you think about your body? To me the question is difficult. There’s the automatic perky answer, and then there are those darker thoughts that can even ruin a good day if I’m not vigilant in regards to my attitude. I keep telling myself not to compare to others, notably to those countless Instagram fashionista shots that I often gaze. I keep trying not to wish for a flat, tightly skinned tummy since mine hasn’t shown the capacity to get quite there.

I eat clean. My nutrition consists of whole grains, veggies, nuts, fruit and protein like ham, chicken and the occasional egg. I do at least one hour of sports daily mostly using my stepper, or if not then walking, skating, skiing, doing zumba or jogging. I started teaching my own latino aerobics class last August. I used to teach fitness so that has felt gratifying. I have got to deliver a fun and structured class, and the challenge pushes me forward.

That said, I regularly battle with feelings of “I’m not thin enough”. These thoughts have never really left my mind ever since I once discovered the world of body unhappiness at the age of fifteen. Where does that feeling come from? The question is very large and I’m not sure to be able to find the answer, ever. So, I have to work around the issue. You know, my constant quest for positive attitude that transforms life and in the end renders things enjoyable.

What is it then that I can do to love my body the way it is today? Focusing on what I can do, and not so much on what I look like doing it, is a key element. If you don’t allow your body the proper nutrition, you cannot be active to your full potential. A body that eats is a body that has energy to perform. Another thing I can be mindful about is “competing” with myself. We all have our specific genetics and age. Being slim at fourteen is most likely easier than at forty. So, if I am to compare, I should do it with people in my age group in order to give myself a fair chance. Comparing isn’t good though, so the ultimate goal would be to stop following those Insta feeds, or other pictorial impulses that I allow myself to see. If one could just be strong enough to take home the fashion inspiration and leave your own body putting down aside.

As I’ve written this text, I’ve come to the conclusion that I need to be more mature about how I see my body. I need to be realistic. I need to appreciate the weight that my body has chosen in the healthy conditions that I have given it. If I do my best in providing good nutrition and daily exercise, so then the weight that my body needs to be happy should make me happy too. The key to happiness then is in changing the way I think of the ideal weight for myself.

Do you love your body?

Do you love your body?

Do you love your body?

Controlling Your Emotions

Controlling Your Emotions

I have difficulty to control my emotions from time to time. I want to be the confident boss of my own life so I went on a quest for ideas on how to better govern my reactions. I believe that the more confidence you have in yourself, the happier you will be in any situation. This then becomes a ground-laying point.

Controlling Your Emotions

Controlling your emotions starts by understanding that they all begin with a thought. You can’t change the feelings that you automatically feel, but you do have lots of control over what it is that you allow yourself to think. Practice makes this point perfect. I can catch myself feeling sad. I go back and analyze what it was that I thought about prior to the sadness invading me. I can then evaluate those thoughts. Were they the reality or only my interpretation of it? These two aren’t the same thing. Maybe I’ll realize that I misunderstood a message, or it can be that I overreacted. Had I chosen to think more positively, the sadness vibes wouldn’t have gained power within me. Next time around, I can stop the negative thinking process at its stem.

Controlling Your Emotions

It’s never too late for gaining control over your feelings. If undesired sentiments have already had time to pop out, the cure is in actively choosing to think the opposite. If I’m feeling anxious about meeting a new client, I can softly speak to myself in an encouraging way. When a thought like “I’ll look too nervous ” comes up, I will consciously counter it with a thought “I will be a charming person, just as I have already been so in many situations in the past”. The more I get on the counteractive emotional patrol, the more automatic these thoughts become. I realize that this all takes psychological energy, but so does being drained by your emotions running all over the place, and when you least want that. It’s a question of investing in your wellbeing.

Controlling Your Emotions

Creating a positive mantra is an excellent idea. It’ll be your internal cheerleader. I like mantras like “I am strong “, “I am loved” and “I am enough “. Since I believe in God, I also enjoy using Bible quotes like “I can do all things thru Christ who strengthens me”. Your mantra will accompany you wherever you need to go. When you feel like “you could just die”, so heavy is the emotional charge, you calmly decide to turn to your mantra. You center yourself, and you’ll feel more solid already. After the feeling-at-raw episode, the good-doing effects continue because you will be boosted in regards to the future. If your mantra and controlling techniques worked once, they’ll surely work again. And there we are – in a positive emotional circle.

Controlling Your Emotions

Controlling Your Emotions

Thanksgiving Tango

Thanksgiving

I’m hyped since this year I’ll be celebrating Thanksgiving at a real dinner party. The Canadian Thanksgiving is way earlier so up here we rarely have American Thanksgiving festivities.

So far November has been mild. It’s actually a month that I enjoy. Life seems to be calming down to essentials. We do our daily work, go to our activities, meet those morning commute folks – all the real stuff that really matters. There’s beauty in being contented in simple ways of life. It’s empowering. If I can be deeply happy now, I can undoubtedly be happy when the weather and other things cooperate even more.

Thanksgiving

I find it pivotal to trust in my capacity to be OK come what may. If I have that deeply-rooted conviction, I have what it takes for me to feel strong. Life is like tango – you go up and down, twist and turn. Once you’ve been able to create that unshakable trust in your own self, nothing is too big. I’m not saying that I myself have the strength but I do have places and forces to go to for that. My trust is first and foremost in God. I believe in Him to help me. After that, I also believe in doing my absolute best.

So, I’ll be cheerfully celebrating Thanksgiving and looking forward to another year of happiness that flows from the inside and shines – and touches lives and hearts – on the outside.

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving

Pressure to Perform

Pressure to Perform

I operate my own enterprise Susa English. I am my own marketer, salesperson, service provider, quality surveyor and what not. It could be easy to succumb to pressure. My livelihood depends on how well I perform in the working life. How high is the quality of my service, teaching. How well I am able to communicate and find interested clients. My motto is approaching all this with a hard-working yet relaxed attitude.

Pressure to Perform

I demand a lot from myself. Every English lesson that I teach has to be clear and only deal with relevant, everyday English. My lesson has to be targeted to my student’s needs. I train them for real life situations by creating those real life situations. We go thru meetings, presentations, restaurant visits, negotiations, conference calls – you name it. I accept only the best from myself to my clients. So I put pressure on myself but more so when I am preparing the class. Once we are in the midst of it, I focus on making the event fun and inspiring.

Pressure to Perform

Succumbing under pressure can be avoided by certain good habits. Careful and peaceful preparation is the first element. I sit down before the work week and go thru every student’s or group’s lesson individually. I prepare everyone’s unique material and find new and boosting things in the medias. This way I feel I have lots to offer once the actual lesson takes place.

The second pressure fighting factor is believing in your capacities to deliver. You have had the training, you have gotten the experience – or maybe you’re getting it now – so you have added value to offer. Remind yourself of that. This is your place to bring home what you have been given to do. No one else can do it better than you. Live your own life. Be your own business (or other) hero.

Pressure to Perform

There is nobility in trying. If you don’t put yourself out there, you’ll never know all that you are capable of. People respect those who try, whether they make it to ultimate spotlight or not.

Most of our pressure comes from within. Calming and controlling your inner critiquer will free you for great things. So, where is it that you’d like to shine this week?

Pressure to Perform

Pressure to Perform

Anxiety Buster

Anxiety Buster

Positive thinking is my life’s guiding line. I live by it. I practice it daily. I draw energy from it. I have come to this place thru some challenging times. How did I get where I am today?

Anxiety Buster

When I moved to Canada five years ago, I started suffering from anxiety. It crept upon me sneakily. I actually didn’t realize that I was dealing with anxiety. I thought that there was something off with my physical health. I never imagined that at the dawn of a new life chapter, I’d be dealing with internal tensions.

Anxiety Buster

The way out started opening when I was able to realize that physical symptoms like shivers, cramps and dizziness were all created in my head. I learned to distinguish real sensations from the ones formed by my nervous mind. It is as if there would be a disk running in the background producing these weird things – all without my permission. I learned how to relax, sometimes even forcing myself to chill. I realized that panic comes over like a wave. If you just have the patience to let it dissipate, it’ll always end up doing so. I have also gotten better about naming my stressors. Once you know what’s eating you up, you can tackle it.

Anxiety Buster

The more I get to know myself, the better I can be in control of my life. I find it important to voice out these darker feelings as well. I’m not ashamed of what I’ve been or still go thru. It’s all part of me. The importance is accepting your strengths and weaknesses, and make life work with what you’ve got.

Anxiety Buster

Anxiety Buster

Anxiety Buster

Positive Thinking

Positive Thinking

We went thru a couple of weeks of pure gray and rainy mush. You know, the typical November tune. Now the sun’s back. The weekend is here and I’m boosted.

I stumbled upon this article and it got me inspired. The text talks about positive thinking and attitude. The key idea is that you can consciously replace your negative thoughts by positive ones. Practice makes perfect, too. I have been applying this idea and it has worked wonders. I like simple things. Life isn’t complicated unless we make it so.

When events happen in your life you can choose how to react to them. A rainy day can be a doom’s day or an opportunity to light up a yummy smelling candle and take a bubble bath. A challenging situation can be an opportunity to surpass yourself. The way you present these ideas to yourself is the key. The more you do the positive walk (and talk), the more automatic it will become. Reading more about this type of thinking, studying all you can to keep you motivated, is what you can and should do. I know my project for a constant happy life is rolling on. I’m excited to see the changes! Happiness overflow?

Positive Thinking

Positive Thinking

Positive Thinking

Positive Thinking

Positive Thinking