We had fun strolling down Clematis Street, the main action street in town. West Palm Beach is a small city with true Floridan charm. The ocean shore adds to the magic. There were luxurious yachts docked at the harbor. The sweetheart and I admired them and stopped to sit on a bench. The city had provided a lovely holiday décor. We also popped in a library on Clematis. If I lived in West Palm Beach, that library would definitely be my favorite hangout. They had cozy reading nooks and even a cafe.
It’s been a relaxed, laid back Christmas with all the simple and sweet essentials. I went to church. It was my first time at a Baptist church. I liked it. I went to Family Church in West Palm Beach. After that we had a small lunch, avocado and a glass of red wine for me. Following the meal, we went out for a long walk. I decided to go read by the water so I ventured out. We had dinner at 8 and just talked after that. Now I’m sitting in bed ready to chill some more…
We spent the day on Palm Beach. As we drove there, we passed by Donald Trump’s mansion. Needless to say that the police were there. Palm Beach is very luxurious. Palm trees are of abundance. I met some really nice folks down by the water. The waves were present but I dove in anyway.
In the evening we walked in Palm Beach and admired store windows of Chanel, Macy’s and well, you know, the Fifth Avenue crowd. The hubs and I talked about being rich, and agreed that as much as money is important, we were happy to be middle class. Appreciating what you have right now is the key to happiness.
Our hangout together also included Starbucks. We took the time to relax and enjoy the holiday spirit. It’s really precious just being able to kick back and be. Taking in the restful moments. Not having anywhere to go or things that need to get done. Just him and I. A yummy drink and love between us.
Our first days in Florida have been about morning runs and spending the rest of the day on the beach. The first one we tried was the Lake Worth Beach, a stone throw’s away from where we’re located. It felt good to be feet in the warm sand again. The waves hit the shore powerfully but I went in anyway.
It’s resourcing having time together with the sweetheart. We went to get Starbucks and just chilled together. I’ve also had interesting conversations with people I’ve met on the beach. I’ve danced by the water and enjoyed hearing the sound of the waves.
I have difficulty to control my emotions from time to time. I want to be the confident boss of my own life so I went on a quest for ideas on how to better govern my reactions. I believe that the more confidence you have in yourself, the happier you will be in any situation. This then becomes a ground-laying point.
Controlling your emotions starts by understanding that they all begin with a thought. You can’t change the feelings that you automatically feel, but you do have lots of control over what it is that you allow yourself to think. Practice makes this point perfect. I can catch myself feeling sad. I go back and analyze what it was that I thought about prior to the sadness invading me. I can then evaluate those thoughts. Were they the reality or only my interpretation of it? These two aren’t the same thing. Maybe I’ll realize that I misunderstood a message, or it can be that I overreacted. Had I chosen to think more positively, the sadness vibes wouldn’t have gained power within me. Next time around, I can stop the negative thinking process at its stem.
It’s never too late for gaining control over your feelings. If undesired sentiments have already had time to pop out, the cure is in actively choosing to think the opposite. If I’m feeling anxious about meeting a new client, I can softly speak to myself in an encouraging way. When a thought like “I’ll look too nervous ” comes up, I will consciously counter it with a thought “I will be a charming person, just as I have already been so in many situations in the past”. The more I get on the counteractive emotional patrol, the more automatic these thoughts become. I realize that this all takes psychological energy, but so does being drained by your emotions running all over the place, and when you least want that. It’s a question of investing in your wellbeing.
Creating a positive mantra is an excellent idea. It’ll be your internal cheerleader. I like mantras like “I am strong “, “I am loved” and “I am enough “. Since I believe in God, I also enjoy using Bible quotes like “I can do all things thru Christ who strengthens me”. Your mantra will accompany you wherever you need to go. When you feel like “you could just die”, so heavy is the emotional charge, you calmly decide to turn to your mantra. You center yourself, and you’ll feel more solid already. After the feeling-at-raw episode, the good-doing effects continue because you will be boosted in regards to the future. If your mantra and controlling techniques worked once, they’ll surely work again. And there we are – in a positive emotional circle.
I got invited to snap some pics at a photoshoot. It was a foggy and damp-chilly Sunday morning but once I entered the library of the Morin Center, Quebec City, where the event took place, the warm ambiance invaded me from within. My friend Olivia and her boss Angela were busy doing hair. Some girls were snacking on dried fruit and babbling relaxedly. That’s what chicks do, right? The coordinator and the creator of the Capelio hair accessory line that the shooting was for, Audrey, was there overlooking the fun. We got to talk a bit, realizing this wasn’t the first time that our paths crossed. Quebec City is quite unique in the sense that it is big yet every once in a while you run into peeps you’ve already been in contact with somehow.
I left the photoshoot jumping giddily. This is fashion – you, I, anyone willing and capable, creating something that transforms Sundays, lives and who knows what else. Most importantly, something that brings people together. Here’s where you can see more about Audrey’s creations: website, Etsy store and Instagram. The new Murder Mystery hair accessory collection will be released next spring. At Audrey’s Etsy store my season’s favorite is this red flower crown – perfect for the holidays!