Self confidence is something I need more. As a teacher to adults, I am constantly in front of paying clients. This causes me some internal pressure at times. It depends on my general level of relaxedness to begin with. Days do come by when I doubt my capacities. I want to put in place an easy going and cool atmosphere, and end up second guessing if I could, all of a sudden, fall into momentary anxiety. This stems from my encrusted disbelief in my true value and strength.
I did some searching on the Internet on self confidence. I found an interesting read here. The article talks about at the end of day writing down three things that you liked about yourself that day. You can do that in a journal or even on your phone. It’ll be beneficial to go back to your notes after some time has passed. When you see things black on white, they sink in more.
The article also advices you to aim for good enough, not perfect. If I set my expectations too high, I am inviting uncomfortableness into my life. I am bound to grow tired and frustrated. Everyone misses the mark sometimes. We all have the right to be perfectly imperfect. I need to remind myself of that. People who don’t let you be imperfect have no place in your life anyway. That’s a healthy thought to keep in mind.
Healthy self confidence is made of kind, flexible thinking towards yourself. Pushing to excellency is great, yet knowing when to loosen up a little is equally important. Finding the balance between the hard and soft approaches is a daily task. When I find the key to be truly me, when I accept my flaws as well, when I’m able to pass onto other things after imperfections that is when I can really live a lighter life. Working with people becomes more fun and less of a performance. Being with friends will be about honesty and trust, not about pleasing others out of fear of rejection. Waking up in the morning is about beginning a new page, excitedly – awaiting to see what life offers, and what I offer to life with my unique personality.
These are simple yet powerful ideas. As any habit, they need repetition in order to be picked up by my mind. What could be more important than working on training my self towards a freer, more relaxed life?