Spring is finding its way over here. But, spring looks very different in Canada. Yesterday was a beautiful, glistening day. I took advantage of my break in between clients, and ventured out for a long walk. I enjoyed pulling out my scarf, ear muffs and gloves. Peeling off layers is like rediscovering your body anew.
Today it’s snowing. The sky is overcast. From the look of it, it could be January as well as mid March. But I’ll take the weather as it comes. I won’t try to change anything. I’ll just open my arms and mind in acceptation. That’s the best way to go about it. I’d be ready to rock peep toe booties but it’ll have to wait. Just a little longer. I can create other pleasures. I’ll take another long stroll ending at my regular Starbucks. Taking refuge there with other snow enduring peeps gives us all a feeling of togetherness.
This look is my mid March Canadian mood. Ready for travels – New York and such – yet still finding a hiding place in black. Black is good. It’s chic and a sure value. The leather slacks give me the wanted edge.
SSushiI have ended up blogging a bit less than usual. Life has attracted my attention elsewhere. Winter has been good to me. I have had fun times with friends, like the one captured in these shots when we got together to eat sushi and celebrate Valerie’s birthday.
Quebec City is an exceptional place during the wintry season. There is so much to experience just by stepping outside. I take my daily walks and enjoy daytime wonders – snow flurries or blinding sunshine. I pop into a coffee shop. I linger on for a moment. Maybe write down some thoughts. All of that gives me energy to work late into the dark nights.
Work has been good. I have found interesting subjects for my lessons. I have discussed things that left both the student and I inspired to go on. This is where daily magic happens. I invite it to happen. I am happy now – thanks to striving for excellence and love for today as it comes.
Self confidence is something I need more. As a teacher to adults, I am constantly in front of paying clients. This causes me some internal pressure at times. It depends on my general level of relaxedness to begin with. Days do come by when I doubt my capacities. I want to put in place an easy going and cool atmosphere, and end up second guessing if I could, all of a sudden, fall into momentary anxiety. This stems from my encrusted disbelief in my true value and strength.
I did some searching on the Internet on self confidence. I found an interesting read here. The article talks about at the end of day writing down three things that you liked about yourself that day. You can do that in a journal or even on your phone. It’ll be beneficial to go back to your notes after some time has passed. When you see things black on white, they sink in more.
The article also advices you to aim for good enough, not perfect. If I set my expectations too high, I am inviting uncomfortableness into my life. I am bound to grow tired and frustrated. Everyone misses the mark sometimes. We all have the right to be perfectly imperfect. I need to remind myself of that. People who don’t let you be imperfect have no place in your life anyway. That’s a healthy thought to keep in mind.
Healthy self confidence is made of kind, flexible thinking towards yourself. Pushing to excellency is great, yet knowing when to loosen up a little is equally important. Finding the balance between the hard and soft approaches is a daily task. When I find the key to be truly me, when I accept my flaws as well, when I’m able to pass onto other things after imperfections that is when I can really live a lighter life. Working with people becomes more fun and less of a performance. Being with friends will be about honesty and trust, not about pleasing others out of fear of rejection. Waking up in the morning is about beginning a new page, excitedly – awaiting to see what life offers, and what I offer to life with my unique personality.
These are simple yet powerful ideas. As any habit, they need repetition in order to be picked up by my mind. What could be more important than working on training my self towards a freer, more relaxed life?
This is the last batch of my Hawaii pics. You can see Honolulu, Waikiki Beach and Hanauma Bay. The perky mountain peak is called the Diamond Head.
Valentine’s Day has always been a special day in our French-American couple. My Parisian hubs has been educated to celebrate love on Feb 14. We got engaged in Paris on that day. We make the day special with chocolates, flowers, casually leaving a new glossy magazine on the coffee table, treating ourselves to some sushi… Whatever our hearts desire. One year it was a brunch in the skies.
This year we will go out clubbing. Just the two of us. We like to get funky like that and spend some one-on-one precious time together. We are never bored of each other’s company. We’re best friends, confidantes and crazy wild lovers all at the same time.
I’ve given it my mission to learn how to chill. I take my work so seriously that sometimes I get overwound. It’s good to be wired up and give it your all but too much is too much. So as the winter temps are here, and the chill doesn’t always entice me out and about, I take good care in making my February life glamorous with the other delicious possibilities I have.
Sometimes I’ll wear sparkly high heels – like these in the pics – inside and put on some dance music on Spotify. Add a glass of red wine to it, be it Friday night, and the party mood has entered my condo. Last weekend I found a pumpkin caramel candle at Bath and Bodyworks. That puppy has been in a lot of use as of since. I’ve even burned it when clients were over for lessons. I find it soothing and cozy. It adds some sweet and positive waves to the event.
Chilling for me is also spending time in reflection, meditation and prayer. I don’t force myself to any strict form. I’ll typically find a comfy place, often times at the windowsill, have my Bible and journal handy, and just let my current desire guide me. These quiet times leave me more centered. I usually focus on one question (or goal) and seek for an answer all in accepting that the answer may come later on.
H&M leopard top
It’s full on winter here in Quebec City now. I put a lot of importance on staying glamour in my daily life. So when we took a hike in the snowy forest to go sample some maple sugar taffy I made sure to wear something that made me feel special – like these Native American inspired hair feathers.
We rummaged thru the snow-covered woods. My client had told me how to get to the little family operated sugar shack in the middle of the forest. She instructed me “once you start seeing faces carved into the threes aligning the path, you know you’re not far”. The truth be told, it took us longer than we’d thought to see those carvings so I did start to wonder in the back of my mind whether I was leading the hubs and my friend into a flat-out disappointment.
Once at the shack, the friendly owner poured some hot maple syrup onto the clean, white snow. Once the yummy stuff freezes, with the help of an ice cream stick, you roll it out and you enjoy. Very rewarding after hiking in the freezing cold air!
I’d love to know – how do you make January special?
Ivana Trump coat
Charlotte Russe jeans
Arden hair feathers