Self Confidence Search

Self Confidence Search

Self confidence is something I need more. As a teacher to adults, I am constantly in front of paying clients. This causes me some internal pressure at times. It depends on my general level of relaxedness to begin with. Days do come by when I doubt my capacities. I want to put in place an easy going and cool atmosphere, and end up second guessing if I could, all of a sudden, fall into momentary anxiety. This stems from my encrusted disbelief in my true value and strength.

Self Confidence Search

I did some searching on the Internet on self confidence. I found an interesting read here. The article talks about at the end of day writing down three things that you liked about yourself that day. You can do that in a journal or even on your phone. It’ll be beneficial to go back to your notes after some time has passed. When you see things black on white, they sink in more.

Self Confidence Search

The article also advices you to aim for good enough, not perfect. If I set my expectations too high, I am inviting uncomfortableness into my life. I am bound to grow tired and frustrated. Everyone misses the mark sometimes. We all have the right to be perfectly imperfect. I need to remind myself of that. People who don’t let you be imperfect have no place in your life anyway. That’s a healthy thought to keep in mind.

Self Confidence Search

Healthy self confidence is made of kind, flexible thinking towards yourself. Pushing to excellency is great, yet knowing when to loosen up a little is equally important. Finding the balance between the hard and soft approaches is a daily task. When I find the key to be truly me, when I accept my flaws as well, when I’m able to pass onto other things after imperfections that is when I can really live a lighter life. Working with people becomes more fun and less of a performance. Being with friends will be about honesty and trust, not about pleasing others out of fear of rejection. Waking up in the morning is about beginning a new page, excitedly – awaiting to see what life offers, and what I offer to life with my unique personality.

Self Confidence Search

These are simple yet powerful ideas. As any habit, they need repetition in order to be picked up by my mind. What could be more important than working on training my self towards a freer, more relaxed life?

Self Confidence Search

Self Confidence Search

Waikiki Valentine

Waikiki Valentine

This is the last batch of my Hawaii pics. You can see Honolulu, Waikiki Beach and Hanauma Bay. The perky mountain peak is called the Diamond Head.

Valentine’s Day has always been a special day in our French-American couple. My Parisian hubs has been educated to celebrate love on Feb 14. We got engaged in Paris on that day. We make the day special with chocolates, flowers, casually leaving a new glossy magazine on the coffee table, treating ourselves to some sushi… Whatever our hearts desire. One year it was a brunch in the skies.

This year we will go out clubbing. Just the two of us. We like to get funky like that and spend some one-on-one precious time together. We are never bored of each other’s company. We’re best friends, confidantes and crazy wild lovers all at the same time.

Guess tee
Bedo skirt
Adidas sneakers

Waikiki Valentine

Waikiki Valentine

Waikiki Valentine

Waikiki Valentine

Waikiki Valentine

Waikiki Valentine

Waikiki Valentine

Waikiki Valentine

Waikiki Valentine

Glamour Chillin’

Glamour Chillin'

I’ve given it my mission to learn how to chill. I take my work so seriously that sometimes I get overwound. It’s good to be wired up and give it your all but too much is too much. So as the winter temps are here, and the chill doesn’t always entice me out and about, I take good care in making my February life glamorous with the other delicious possibilities I have.

Sometimes I’ll wear sparkly high heels – like these in the pics – inside and put on some dance music on Spotify. Add a glass of red wine to it, be it Friday night, and the party mood has entered my condo. Last weekend I found a pumpkin caramel candle at Bath and Bodyworks. That puppy has been in a lot of use as of since. I’ve even burned it when clients were over for lessons. I find it soothing and cozy. It adds some sweet and positive waves to the event.

Chilling for me is also spending time in reflection, meditation and prayer. I don’t force myself to any strict form. I’ll typically find a comfy place, often times at the windowsill, have my Bible and journal handy, and just let my current desire guide me. These quiet times leave me more centered. I usually focus on one question (or goal) and seek for an answer all in accepting that the answer may come later on.

H&M cardi
H&M leopard top
Sirens leggings
Spring sandals

Glamour Chillin'

Glamour Chillin'

Glamour Chillin'

Glamour Chillin'

Glamour Chillin'

Glamour Chillin'

Glamour Chillin'

Glamour Chillin'

Glamour Chillin'

Sugared up

Sugared up

It’s full on winter here in Quebec City now. I put a lot of importance on staying glamour in my daily life. So when we took a hike in the snowy forest to go sample some maple sugar taffy I made sure to wear something that made me feel special – like these Native American inspired hair feathers.

We rummaged thru the snow-covered woods. My client had told me how to get to the little family operated sugar shack in the middle of the forest. She instructed me “once you start seeing faces carved into the threes aligning the path, you know you’re not far”. The truth be told, it took us longer than we’d thought to see those carvings so I did start to wonder in the back of my mind whether I was leading the hubs and my friend into a flat-out disappointment.

Once at the shack, the friendly owner poured some hot maple syrup onto the clean, white snow. Once the yummy stuff freezes, with the help of an ice cream stick, you roll it out and you enjoy. Very rewarding after hiking in the freezing cold air!

I’d love to know – how do you make January special?

Ivana Trump coat
Charlotte Russe jeans
Limitee sweater
Arden hair feathers

Sugared up

Sugared up

Sugared up

Sugared up

Sugared up

Sugared up

Sugared up

Sugared up

Sugared up

Sugared up

Sugared up

Pink Top with Self Confidence Talk

Pink Glamour Top

I’m still in the process of pondering the blog name change like I told you last week. Alicia, thank you sweetly for your precious opinion.

Life in January is filled with little drops of happiness. I look for them. I hunger for them. So I had one today. Look at my Instagram and you’ll see a pic of the smiley me with a coffee that a client brought as he came to class.

Now, let’s relax with that coffee (or whatever makes you feel precious and warm inside) and talk about things that matter. Let’s exchange and in the process be boosted.

I’m a person who loves pretty clothes – definitely pink – knowing about trends and creating glamorous outfits. These all add a nice extra taste to my days. That said, I am also someone who is quite sensitive emotionally. I need to be able to express how I feel at regular intervals. Sometimes I find this to be too much. I’d like to be less soft-hearted. I’d like to be tougher. When the going gets more intense, we all look for strong pillars around us. We appreciate people who don’t panic. I have that attitude in me – I am sure – I just need to consciously lure it out.

How can one gain more emotional stability? First, you have to relax. You have to find a feeling of trust in life. That hot-chocolate comforting, pancake smelling sentiment that “yep, I’ll be OK”. You have to determine where you can find it. My safety assurance is my faith in Jesus. God made this world, so he is able to protect me.

Once your safe base is found, you have to learn to remind yourself to go back there. These things don’t come automatically, especially after years of opposite, read anxious, behavior. It’s alright to catch yourself worrying. But act as soon as you can. I find going out for a walk, reading something captivating or talking with someone who really listens to me soothing.

I also remind myself that “this too will pass”. Sometimes things that are there here and now seem so dramatic. Yet when the sun rises again, the effect will already have lessened. You do something you regret. OK, that’s human. Don’t beat yourself up for it longer than five minutes. You go thru it, think how you’ll learn from it and then push yourself to forget all ruminating. Sometimes I feel tense around other people – social anxiety they call it – even if I don’t want to. I hate that and scold myself for it hours beyond the event. What if I just said “I wish I could be more true to my real inner being, which I believe to be a confident girl. Next time I’ll have a fresh new opportunity to let more of true me come out”.

Sirens top
Simons skirt
Payless pumps

Pink Glamour Top

Pink Glamour Top

Pink Glamour Top

Pink Glamour Top

Pink Glamour Top

Pink Glamour Top

Pink Glamour Top

Pink Glamour Top

Pink Glamour Top

Help!

Help!

I have something important to ask you. I’ve had this blog since 2007. I started it while living in Paris. That explains the name. Now I have been wondering if I should change the blog name since I haven’t lived in Paris for four years. What do you think about that? Is my title misleading? I was thinking of maybe changing the name to Coffee Fashionista.

Today I write about my life in Quebec City. I also tell you about my recurrent trips to the U.S. My heart belongs to New York and Miami that I regularly visit. On my Instagram feed I do post quite a lot of pictures of my coffee shop visits. Basically, I write about things that are on my heart.

I work as an English teacher for my own company. I take care of my own business from A to Z. I love being in control of my timetable. My work is evening oriented but I have adapted to that. I take time during the day to walk, do sports, blog and hang out at cafes.

I would really appreciate hearing your thoughts.

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