Our first days in Florida have been about morning runs and spending the rest of the day on the beach. The first one we tried was the Lake Worth Beach, a stone throw’s away from where we’re located. It felt good to be feet in the warm sand again. The waves hit the shore powerfully but I went in anyway.
It’s resourcing having time together with the sweetheart. We went to get Starbucks and just chilled together. I’ve also had interesting conversations with people I’ve met on the beach. I’ve danced by the water and enjoyed hearing the sound of the waves.
I have difficulty to control my emotions from time to time. I want to be the confident boss of my own life so I went on a quest for ideas on how to better govern my reactions. I believe that the more confidence you have in yourself, the happier you will be in any situation. This then becomes a ground-laying point.
Controlling your emotions starts by understanding that they all begin with a thought. You can’t change the feelings that you automatically feel, but you do have lots of control over what it is that you allow yourself to think. Practice makes this point perfect. I can catch myself feeling sad. I go back and analyze what it was that I thought about prior to the sadness invading me. I can then evaluate those thoughts. Were they the reality or only my interpretation of it? These two aren’t the same thing. Maybe I’ll realize that I misunderstood a message, or it can be that I overreacted. Had I chosen to think more positively, the sadness vibes wouldn’t have gained power within me. Next time around, I can stop the negative thinking process at its stem.
It’s never too late for gaining control over your feelings. If undesired sentiments have already had time to pop out, the cure is in actively choosing to think the opposite. If I’m feeling anxious about meeting a new client, I can softly speak to myself in an encouraging way. When a thought like “I’ll look too nervous ” comes up, I will consciously counter it with a thought “I will be a charming person, just as I have already been so in many situations in the past”. The more I get on the counteractive emotional patrol, the more automatic these thoughts become. I realize that this all takes psychological energy, but so does being drained by your emotions running all over the place, and when you least want that. It’s a question of investing in your wellbeing.
Creating a positive mantra is an excellent idea. It’ll be your internal cheerleader. I like mantras like “I am strong “, “I am loved” and “I am enough “. Since I believe in God, I also enjoy using Bible quotes like “I can do all things thru Christ who strengthens me”. Your mantra will accompany you wherever you need to go. When you feel like “you could just die”, so heavy is the emotional charge, you calmly decide to turn to your mantra. You center yourself, and you’ll feel more solid already. After the feeling-at-raw episode, the good-doing effects continue because you will be boosted in regards to the future. If your mantra and controlling techniques worked once, they’ll surely work again. And there we are – in a positive emotional circle.
I got invited to snap some pics at a photoshoot. It was a foggy and damp-chilly Sunday morning but once I entered the library of the Morin Center, Quebec City, where the event took place, the warm ambiance invaded me from within. My friend Olivia and her boss Angela were busy doing hair. Some girls were snacking on dried fruit and babbling relaxedly. That’s what chicks do, right? The coordinator and the creator of the Capelio hair accessory line that the shooting was for, Audrey, was there overlooking the fun. We got to talk a bit, realizing this wasn’t the first time that our paths crossed. Quebec City is quite unique in the sense that it is big yet every once in a while you run into peeps you’ve already been in contact with somehow.
I left the photoshoot jumping giddily. This is fashion – you, I, anyone willing and capable, creating something that transforms Sundays, lives and who knows what else. Most importantly, something that brings people together. Here’s where you can see more about Audrey’s creations: website, Etsy store and Instagram. The new Murder Mystery hair accessory collection will be released next spring. At Audrey’s Etsy store my season’s favorite is this red flower crown – perfect for the holidays!
I’m hyped since this year I’ll be celebrating Thanksgiving at a real dinner party. The Canadian Thanksgiving is way earlier so up here we rarely have American Thanksgiving festivities.
So far November has been mild. It’s actually a month that I enjoy. Life seems to be calming down to essentials. We do our daily work, go to our activities, meet those morning commute folks – all the real stuff that really matters. There’s beauty in being contented in simple ways of life. It’s empowering. If I can be deeply happy now, I can undoubtedly be happy when the weather and other things cooperate even more.
I find it pivotal to trust in my capacity to be OK come what may. If I have that deeply-rooted conviction, I have what it takes for me to feel strong. Life is like tango – you go up and down, twist and turn. Once you’ve been able to create that unshakable trust in your own self, nothing is too big. I’m not saying that I myself have the strength but I do have places and forces to go to for that. My trust is first and foremost in God. I believe in Him to help me. After that, I also believe in doing my absolute best.
So, I’ll be cheerfully celebrating Thanksgiving and looking forward to another year of happiness that flows from the inside and shines – and touches lives and hearts – on the outside.
I operate my own enterprise Susa English. I am my own marketer, salesperson, service provider, quality surveyor and what not. It could be easy to succumb to pressure. My livelihood depends on how well I perform in the working life. How high is the quality of my service, teaching. How well I am able to communicate and find interested clients. My motto is approaching all this with a hard-working yet relaxed attitude.
I demand a lot from myself. Every English lesson that I teach has to be clear and only deal with relevant, everyday English. My lesson has to be targeted to my student’s needs. I train them for real life situations by creating those real life situations. We go thru meetings, presentations, restaurant visits, negotiations, conference calls – you name it. I accept only the best from myself to my clients. So I put pressure on myself but more so when I am preparing the class. Once we are in the midst of it, I focus on making the event fun and inspiring.
Succumbing under pressure can be avoided by certain good habits. Careful and peaceful preparation is the first element. I sit down before the work week and go thru every student’s or group’s lesson individually. I prepare everyone’s unique material and find new and boosting things in the medias. This way I feel I have lots to offer once the actual lesson takes place.
The second pressure fighting factor is believing in your capacities to deliver. You have had the training, you have gotten the experience – or maybe you’re getting it now – so you have added value to offer. Remind yourself of that. This is your place to bring home what you have been given to do. No one else can do it better than you. Live your own life. Be your own business (or other) hero.
There is nobility in trying. If you don’t put yourself out there, you’ll never know all that you are capable of. People respect those who try, whether they make it to ultimate spotlight or not.
Most of our pressure comes from within. Calming and controlling your inner critiquer will free you for great things. So, where is it that you’d like to shine this week?
Positive thinking is my life’s guiding line. I live by it. I practice it daily. I draw energy from it. I have come to this place thru some challenging times. How did I get where I am today?
When I moved to Canada five years ago, I started suffering from anxiety. It crept upon me sneakily. I actually didn’t realize that I was dealing with anxiety. I thought that there was something off with my physical health. I never imagined that at the dawn of a new life chapter, I’d be dealing with internal tensions.
The way out started opening when I was able to realize that physical symptoms like shivers, cramps and dizziness were all created in my head. I learned to distinguish real sensations from the ones formed by my nervous mind. It is as if there would be a disk running in the background producing these weird things – all without my permission. I learned how to relax, sometimes even forcing myself to chill. I realized that panic comes over like a wave. If you just have the patience to let it dissipate, it’ll always end up doing so. I have also gotten better about naming my stressors. Once you know what’s eating you up, you can tackle it.
The more I get to know myself, the better I can be in control of my life. I find it important to voice out these darker feelings as well. I’m not ashamed of what I’ve been or still go thru. It’s all part of me. The importance is accepting your strengths and weaknesses, and make life work with what you’ve got.