Category: Self Booster

Do you love your body?

Do you love your body?

What do you think about your body? To me the question is difficult. There’s the automatic perky answer, and then there are those darker thoughts that can even ruin a good day if I’m not vigilant in regards to my attitude. I keep telling myself not to compare to others, notably to those countless Instagram fashionista shots that I often gaze. I keep trying not to wish for a flat, tightly skinned tummy since mine hasn’t shown the capacity to get quite there.

I eat clean. My nutrition consists of whole grains, veggies, nuts, fruit and protein like ham, chicken and the occasional egg. I do at least one hour of sports daily mostly using my stepper, or if not then walking, skating, skiing, doing zumba or jogging. I started teaching my own latino aerobics class last August. I used to teach fitness so that has felt gratifying. I have got to deliver a fun and structured class, and the challenge pushes me forward.

That said, I regularly battle with feelings of “I’m not thin enough”. These thoughts have never really left my mind ever since I once discovered the world of body unhappiness at the age of fifteen. Where does that feeling come from? The question is very large and I’m not sure to be able to find the answer, ever. So, I have to work around the issue. You know, my constant quest for positive attitude that transforms life and in the end renders things enjoyable.

What is it then that I can do to love my body the way it is today? Focusing on what I can do, and not so much on what I look like doing it, is a key element. If you don’t allow your body the proper nutrition, you cannot be active to your full potential. A body that eats is a body that has energy to perform. Another thing I can be mindful about is “competing” with myself. We all have our specific genetics and age. Being slim at fourteen is most likely easier than at forty. So, if I am to compare, I should do it with people in my age group in order to give myself a fair chance. Comparing isn’t good though, so the ultimate goal would be to stop following those Insta feeds, or other pictorial impulses that I allow myself to see. If one could just be strong enough to take home the fashion inspiration and leave your own body putting down aside.

As I’ve written this text, I’ve come to the conclusion that I need to be more mature about how I see my body. I need to be realistic. I need to appreciate the weight that my body has chosen in the healthy conditions that I have given it. If I do my best in providing good nutrition and daily exercise, so then the weight that my body needs to be happy should make me happy too. The key to happiness then is in changing the way I think of the ideal weight for myself.

Do you love your body?

Do you love your body?

Do you love your body?

Coffee Love

Hitting Anxiety at its Core

I really love coffee. Especially that of Starbucks. There’s something so smooth and a bit smoky to its taste. These pictures were shot at another coffee shop, actually physically the closest to my place, Second Cup. Their coffee is more acidic in my mouth, but their pastries are better. At Starbucks I go for a chocolate chip cookie, the few times I actually buy food, and at Second Cup I fall for their lemon poppy seed scone, even if I usually am not a huge scone lover.

Hitting Anxiety at its Core

I make it a point to visit my favorite cafes several times a week. My work schedule is very scattered throughout the day. I typically work both in the morning late into the evenings. In the time space between, I try to make the most of my free moments. That includes long walks in the city and its parks as well as lunch or afternoon coffee hangouts. I usually pack some healthy food  with me along with a magazine. I read some articles and also write down creative things or just journal on the magazine pages. My glossies are full of handwritten notes, and I love it that way.

Hitting Anxiety at its Core

Time for myself is my way of centering. My work is very sociable. I am always with students. I take pride in being encouraging and focused. That needs counterbalancing. To be able to give as I wish, I need to upload. Those coffee shop lingerings provide me with a savory way to enjoy life when I can in a simple way.

Hitting Anxiety at its Core

Hitting Anxiety at its Core

 

Sun Dance

Sun Dance

The beach is my happy place. I love seeing the vast mass of water. There’s hope and dreams and opportunity in all that. I encourage you to find “your beach”. You may not have access to a veritable waterfront, but there are places everywhere where you can retreat for a moment. Connect with yourself, and a higher power, if that’s how you roll. Find that time – and you’ll feel more centered.

A good life is really made of simple things. This week mine has been about working, doing sports and connecting with my husband. Choosing to invest time in people that you value – and doing it generously – pays off. You’ll feel more supported. Someone’s got your back.

My goal for today is to live every passing moment with enthusiasm. I called my mom today. (She’s a faithful reader of this blog, so I know she’ll be reading this.) That conversation was a path of life lived together. It was nothing special yet it was very special. We were open and honest, just sharing life as we had experienced it. No need to sugarcoat or overdo. These kind of moments make the day worthwhile.

We can all invite meaningful moments into our days. By reaching out to others, the ones that our heart is leading us to, we go from a thought to actual action. Who is it that you’ve been meaning to call for a while now?

Sun Dance

Sun Dance

Sun Dance

Controlling Your Emotions

Controlling Your Emotions

I have difficulty to control my emotions from time to time. I want to be the confident boss of my own life so I went on a quest for ideas on how to better govern my reactions. I believe that the more confidence you have in yourself, the happier you will be in any situation. This then becomes a ground-laying point.

Controlling Your Emotions

Controlling your emotions starts by understanding that they all begin with a thought. You can’t change the feelings that you automatically feel, but you do have lots of control over what it is that you allow yourself to think. Practice makes this point perfect. I can catch myself feeling sad. I go back and analyze what it was that I thought about prior to the sadness invading me. I can then evaluate those thoughts. Were they the reality or only my interpretation of it? These two aren’t the same thing. Maybe I’ll realize that I misunderstood a message, or it can be that I overreacted. Had I chosen to think more positively, the sadness vibes wouldn’t have gained power within me. Next time around, I can stop the negative thinking process at its stem.

Controlling Your Emotions

It’s never too late for gaining control over your feelings. If undesired sentiments have already had time to pop out, the cure is in actively choosing to think the opposite. If I’m feeling anxious about meeting a new client, I can softly speak to myself in an encouraging way. When a thought like “I’ll look too nervous ” comes up, I will consciously counter it with a thought “I will be a charming person, just as I have already been so in many situations in the past”. The more I get on the counteractive emotional patrol, the more automatic these thoughts become. I realize that this all takes psychological energy, but so does being drained by your emotions running all over the place, and when you least want that. It’s a question of investing in your wellbeing.

Controlling Your Emotions

Creating a positive mantra is an excellent idea. It’ll be your internal cheerleader. I like mantras like “I am strong “, “I am loved” and “I am enough “. Since I believe in God, I also enjoy using Bible quotes like “I can do all things thru Christ who strengthens me”. Your mantra will accompany you wherever you need to go. When you feel like “you could just die”, so heavy is the emotional charge, you calmly decide to turn to your mantra. You center yourself, and you’ll feel more solid already. After the feeling-at-raw episode, the good-doing effects continue because you will be boosted in regards to the future. If your mantra and controlling techniques worked once, they’ll surely work again. And there we are – in a positive emotional circle.

Controlling Your Emotions

Controlling Your Emotions

Thanksgiving Tango

Thanksgiving

I’m hyped since this year I’ll be celebrating Thanksgiving at a real dinner party. The Canadian Thanksgiving is way earlier so up here we rarely have American Thanksgiving festivities.

So far November has been mild. It’s actually a month that I enjoy. Life seems to be calming down to essentials. We do our daily work, go to our activities, meet those morning commute folks – all the real stuff that really matters. There’s beauty in being contented in simple ways of life. It’s empowering. If I can be deeply happy now, I can undoubtedly be happy when the weather and other things cooperate even more.

Thanksgiving

I find it pivotal to trust in my capacity to be OK come what may. If I have that deeply-rooted conviction, I have what it takes for me to feel strong. Life is like tango – you go up and down, twist and turn. Once you’ve been able to create that unshakable trust in your own self, nothing is too big. I’m not saying that I myself have the strength but I do have places and forces to go to for that. My trust is first and foremost in God. I believe in Him to help me. After that, I also believe in doing my absolute best.

So, I’ll be cheerfully celebrating Thanksgiving and looking forward to another year of happiness that flows from the inside and shines – and touches lives and hearts – on the outside.

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving

Pressure to Perform

Pressure to Perform

I operate my own enterprise Susa English. I am my own marketer, salesperson, service provider, quality surveyor and what not. It could be easy to succumb to pressure. My livelihood depends on how well I perform in the working life. How high is the quality of my service, teaching. How well I am able to communicate and find interested clients. My motto is approaching all this with a hard-working yet relaxed attitude.

Pressure to Perform

I demand a lot from myself. Every English lesson that I teach has to be clear and only deal with relevant, everyday English. My lesson has to be targeted to my student’s needs. I train them for real life situations by creating those real life situations. We go thru meetings, presentations, restaurant visits, negotiations, conference calls – you name it. I accept only the best from myself to my clients. So I put pressure on myself but more so when I am preparing the class. Once we are in the midst of it, I focus on making the event fun and inspiring.

Pressure to Perform

Succumbing under pressure can be avoided by certain good habits. Careful and peaceful preparation is the first element. I sit down before the work week and go thru every student’s or group’s lesson individually. I prepare everyone’s unique material and find new and boosting things in the medias. This way I feel I have lots to offer once the actual lesson takes place.

The second pressure fighting factor is believing in your capacities to deliver. You have had the training, you have gotten the experience – or maybe you’re getting it now – so you have added value to offer. Remind yourself of that. This is your place to bring home what you have been given to do. No one else can do it better than you. Live your own life. Be your own business (or other) hero.

Pressure to Perform

There is nobility in trying. If you don’t put yourself out there, you’ll never know all that you are capable of. People respect those who try, whether they make it to ultimate spotlight or not.

Most of our pressure comes from within. Calming and controlling your inner critiquer will free you for great things. So, where is it that you’d like to shine this week?

Pressure to Perform

Pressure to Perform